Ask Ms. Ava: “What’s Behind the Name Circle of Q?”

Dear Ms. Ava,

Where did the name “Circle of Q” come from? What, or whom, does “Q” signify?

Nervous Non-anon

Dear NN,

Among the most memorable days of creating this new community were the ones that we (my friend and cofounder Becca and I) spent deciding what to name it. We were working in Becca’s rented house in Wilton Manors, sketching out ideas and brainstorming our direction over coffee and, later in the afternoon, some wine. After going home to sleep, I’d return the next day so we could resume thinking, planning, and working. It was a fun time, full of excitement at the opportunity to create something of real value to our crossdressing and transfemme population and their admirers.

Mission and concept came more easily to us than the name. For 2 days, we kicked around idea after idea. Should it be inspired by a mythical figure?  A theme? A nonsense word? Something else?

In the end, we chose “Circle of Q” to reflect a combination of things. (None of which is politically linked, in case you’re wondering.)

1. The “circle” concept was the easy part. It represents the supportive community we want to create here.

2. We bounced around dozens of words and ideas that resonated with our vision or represented aspects of crossdressing and personal authenticity. None stood out on its own, but several of them started with “Q.” Below are the ones I remember right now, though I may be forgetting a few:

  • Qetesh:  A goddess of sacred ecstasy and sexual pleasure
  • Lady Qitara: My mentor for The Sissy Parlor
  • Questioning
  • Quest
  • Queen
  • Quality
  • Quickening
  • Quirkiness

3. What clinched it for me was that the letter “Q” lends itself very well to a visual logo. I wanted to incorporate something abstractly reminiscent of… umm… an organ of special interest to much of our membership. Becca found the idea equally amusing. It found a perfect home in our new logo, cleverly integrated by Domina Doll into the tail of the Q. I love our logo. It still makes me smile when I look at it.


There’s a lot of symbolism in our logo, perhaps to be explained in another post someday. What do you see in it? What could “Q” mean to you?




By Ava Durga

I'm one of the cofounders of Circle of Q and love working with Sissy Becca and our team to create this community for you. I established The Sissy Parlor of South Florida in 2017, the Blue Belles Meetup groups for CDs and transfemmes in 2018, dressed my first sissy in 2001, and have been privy to a broad spectrum of identities, relationships, sexualities, and lifestyles along the way.  In addition to running Circle of Q, I advise male clients all over the world on accepting and exercising the desire to explore feminine experiences of all types. Read my extended bio here.  

2 thoughts on “Ask Ms. Ava: “What’s Behind the Name Circle of Q?”

  • Svetlana Brewski

    Ha! i did not read this until today … and i am fairly new with … i am guessing 2 to 2&1/2 weeks now. i am interpreting and reading the “COQ” as being pronounced “cock” … which seems to have a good deal to do with most of the members. 💋❤️👠💄🥰

  • Ava Durga

    Yes, Svetlana! I can’t believe I forgot to include that part. Becca and I cracked up when realizing what the abbreviation would be. It definitely helped clinch the final decision.

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