Community Guidelines

Community Guidelines

Circle of Q is a safe exclusive, inclusive community where you can meet like-minded friends and lovers for safe, discreet socializing and flirty recreational play. In order to keep CoQ fun, safe and respectful of all members, we have created these Community Guidelines.

Be sure to read them through, so you do violate our guidelines and get yourself banned.


  • Do respect other members

    We’re a very diverse community. This means you should respect other people’s beliefs, interests and choices.

  • Do add an attractive profile photo

    At CoQ your membership will not be activated until you upload a photo of yourself. Do add a real photo of yourself. If you want to remain anonymous, you can add a selfie of your sexy legs, close-up face photo with your eyes cropped, or wearing sunglasses, or a sexy mask. Sexy body photos in lingerie or a sexy dress (no nudes on public profile pics please! You can add these to your “private” photos that you share only with friends). If you are out and don’t care who sees the REAL you, feel free to add un-cropped/not disguised head shots as well. Be creative, be real, show off, have fun!

  • Do add content to your profile

    Again, at CoQ you need to add a profile before your membership can be approved. This is because we want to make sure that the people who join CoQ are real people, and not fakes or scammers. So what should you add? Tell us about yourself. Are you a Top/bottom or switch? Are you looking for friendship only, a relationship, or just a casual hook-up or date? Do you want to meet people in cyberspace only, or real life? What are your interests (both sexual and otherwise)? What are your hobbies, what do you like to do on a date, are you vanilla or kinky, new or experienced? Be specific and detailed, but avoid adding any personal information like your address, real name, phone number, email address, etc… Next, let us know what kind of person or people you are looking to connect with. Be specific, be detailed. Who is your dream date? What kind of people do you like to hang out with. Let us know! Be open, playful, flirty, fun, and write a great profile so you have more of a chance to meet your ideal friends or lovers.

  • Do ask for pronouns

    If in doubt, ask what pronouns (he/she/they) someone prefers. You may also add your preferred pronouns to your profile to let others know how you prefer to be addressed.

  • Do send specific messages

    Rather than copying and pasting the same message to everyone you like, read their profile, see what they’re into and send an appropriate message, like: “Hi there, I see you are into traveling” instead of “Hey sexy! Want to play?”

  • Do use common sense

    Don’t do anything on CoQ that you wouldn’t do in real life. Don’t do anything illegal. Don’t break our Terms of Service. Don’t share personal information. DO use common sense! If you are unsure about any activity, ask our moderators first. If you see anything you think violates our terms, let us know! Play safe and have fun!

  • Do report any concerns to our moderators

    If you encounter someone who violates our community guidelines, do not reply back. Instead, block the person and report them to our community moderators.


  • Don’t post personal  information in public

    Phone numbers, e-mail addresses, social media accounts, real names, and other personal info are not permitted in profiles, comments, chat, images, or any public area. You may exchange this information only in private messages.  Multiple offenders will be banned.

  • Don’t verbally abuse other members

    You should behave the same way on CoQ as you would in real life. Be friendly, honest, non-judgmental and kind

  • Don’t discuss or promote your political views in public

    Avoid political statements and commentary in your profile, chat, and other public areas. There are many places where you can steep yourself in political discourse. CoQ isn’t one of them.  Divisiveness of any kind isn’t tolerated  here. 

  • Don’t pretend to be someone else

    It is in your best interest to show the real you if you want to find real friends. Don’t post fake photos, and don’t lie about your profile info.

  • Don’t be sexually explicit

    Don’t post nude or sexually explicit photos in your public profile. Save these for your private photo galleries where you can share with friends. Don’t expose others to graphic photos without asking first. Don’t start a sexual conversation without knowing if they’re into sexy chat. Again, be respectful. Don’t do anything on CoQ that you wouldn’t do in a public space in real life. If private, ask first.

  • Don’t spam other members

    Don’t send unwanted or irrelevant messages. Don’t try to sell products, other sites, or yourself on CoQ. Don’t spam other members. Spamming is illegal and will get you banned.

  • Don’t ask for money or gifts

    Don’t ever ask other members for money or gifts. This can also get you banned!

  • Don’t send money to other members

    There is no reason for anyone to ask you for money. If someone you meet on CoQ asks you for money, stop all communication and report them immediately.

  • Don’t respond harshly to rejection or be mean

    Nobody likes rejection, but it happens. If you get rejected by another member, don’t take it personally. In all likelihood, you are just not their type. If you have to reject the advances of a member on CoQ, do so kindly. Don’t be mean. Everyone has feelings so again, be respectful.

  • Don’t post private chats or information about other members

    Never post information about other members, or anything that goes on behind the closed doors of the COQ membership area. This includes public and private chats, other people’s profile info and pics, and any COQ announcements that are not already on the public-facing site. Privacy and discretion are paramount here. Anyone breaking this rule will be banned permanently.

If you don’t follow these guidelines, you’ll receive a warning (unless it’s something we ban people for right away). If you ignore this warning, you risk getting permanently banned. These guidelines are designed to make CoQ a friendly, private, discrete and safe place for all our members. So, always be friendly, civil and respectful, and let’s keep CoQ fun and enjoyable for all!


Safety Tips

At CoQ we care very much about our community. Safety and privacy are our top priorities. While we take many steps to protect you, ultimately your online and offline safety remains your responsibility. Use these tips and common sense practices to have a safe and enjoyable experience.

Creating your profile


Be anonymous

Don’t include contact details or any other identifiable or personal information in your profile or in your initial communications with other members.

Protect your password

Don’t share your password with anyone. Be cautious when accessing your account from a public or shared computer so that others can’t see or record your password or personal information, and make sure to log out after use.

Interacting with other members


Communicate through CoQ

Get to know someone inside CoQ first, so you can get to know them better before contacting them in real life via email, phone or social media. We provide text chat, audio chat and video chat that is discrete and private so you can protect your identity online.

Get to know someone

While it is exciting meeting new people, especially possible friends and new lovers, you should always take your time to get to know someone first before disclosing your full identity or contact details. Play safe!

Protecting yourself from scammers and fakes!

Scammers are people who use dating sites and other social media sites to scam other members, usually by asking for money. If you suspect that someone you’re talking to may be a scammer, stop all communication and report them immediately.

Watch out for red flags

There are certain red flags to watch for that may indicate you’re dealing with a scammer. Be aware of anyone who:

  • asks you for money
  • asks to communicate outside of the site right away (through phone, email, social media)
  • disappears mysteriously from the site, then reappears under a different profile
  • claims to love you right away, or quickly pushes for a serious relationship without really knowing you
  • has a well written description but makes lots of grammar / spelling mistakes via messages
  • claims to be from your country but currently traveling, living or working abroad
  • refuses to meet you in person or talk on the phone
  • avoids answering questions about themselves
  • claims to be recently widowed

Common reasons used by scammers to ask for money are:

  • travel costs to come visit you (airfare, visa fee)
  • internet bill / phone credit to keep communicating with you
  • an emergency (medical issue, being stuck abroad)
  • a donation for a charity
  • a lucrative business idea

Meeting in person


Meet in a public place

Make sure to meet in a public place during daylight hours. Don’t agree to meet in an isolated place, at their place or your own home.

Arrange your own transportation

Don’t allow your date to pick you up. Use your own transportation to get to and from the meeting place.

Stay connected

Tell friends where and when you are going. Make sure that your phone is fully charged and reachable. Let your friends know how the meeting is going and also when you get home safely.

Watch your drink

Watch your alcohol intake and don’t leave your drink unattended. Some people use date rape drugs in drinks which can be very dangerous!



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